Ghanaian gospel musician, pastor and life coach Sonnie Badu has sparked intense discussion online after sharing strong views on marriage, purpose and leadership in relationships.
In a video posted on his official Instagram page on Saturday, February 14, he cautioned women to be mindful of the kind of men they choose to marry, arguing that a man without vision can significantly delay a woman’s progress in life.
According to him, marriage is deeply spiritual, and once a woman chooses to follow a man, spiritual authority operates through that man.
“If you find a husband with a vision, be careful how you follow. If you find a husband without a vision, pray that he discovers his vision,” he said.
“Because so long as you follow him, God will not hear you; God will hear him.”
Mr Badu explained that when a man lacks purpose and direction, it affects not only him but also the woman who aligns her life with his. He stressed that such a situation can result in stagnation, especially when the woman’s dreams and calling have no place within the man’s vision.
Drawing from his experience in marriage counselling, the singer revealed that he often advises men without clear purpose not to rush into marriage.
“I told the husband, sir, do you have a purpose and a vision? If you don’t have a purpose and a vision, don’t marry,” he said.
“Because your wife must live her dream in your purpose and your vision.”
He further stated that if a woman’s dreams are not aligned with a man’s vision, then the relationship is fundamentally flawed.
“If your wife and your dream are not in alignment with his purpose and vision, then you are not his wife. You’re somebody else’s,” he added.
“You’re not his rib. You met out of emotions.”
Mr Badu also shared his belief on leadership roles in marriage, asserting that while women play critical roles, spiritual leadership, according to him, is biblically assigned to men.
“So long as God remains God, a woman can never lead. It is biblical,” he said.
“But a woman can be the brain in the man to lead.”
His comments have since generated mixed reactions on social media, with some users agreeing with his emphasis on purpose and direction in marriage, while others have criticized his views as outdated and dismissive of women’s leadership roles.
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